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jlhWell, wiseass maybe.
I just replied to a locked post of a friend (whose name and situation shall, of course, remain private) and surprised myself. It was like a statement of purpose, a manifesto, a big chunk of things that I believe, that I act on in my best moments, that battle with the doubt in my worst moments, and that mostly allow me to hang on. So I thought, in the interest of all of you getting to know me better, that I would re-post it here. So:
I've been thinking a lot about this sort of thing lately (for reasons too terrifically t00by to go into) and while I understand all the reasons for not jumping, and all the reasons for being afraid, the best thing really is to just go for it and see what happens.
Looking back at the people in my life, I have the most bitterness and/or unresolved anger, and the least respect, for the ones who wouldn't/couldn't move forward not because of circumstances, or their own lack of interest or what have you, but because they were afraid. It's the worst thing to come up against, and the most frustrating.
I can say that for the most part in my life, I regret the things I didn't do rather than the things I did that didn't work out. You make the best decision you can with the information at hand. Second guessing after the fact is just self-punishment. But if you don't try, you will never know what might have been.
Only you know your capabilities and limitations. But one of the reasons we have other people in our lives is to expand those capabilities, to get us to rethink our limitations. The fear, really, is healthy and good and probably what you should be seeking. Someone who is good for you, who can help you grow as a person, is bound to be scary. The goal--really, the thing you do your entire life--is to push through the fear, to do something not just even though you are scared, but because you are scared.
If it ends up being a horrible disaster, then hey, you tried. You can walk away from it knowing that you went in with the best intentions, you gained valuable knowledge about yourself, and you'll be better equipped when the next thing comes along.
Also, many thanks to everyone who replied to that nutty post of yesterday. I will attempt to think of myself as a little cooler than I might have. Thanks.
I just replied to a locked post of a friend (whose name and situation shall, of course, remain private) and surprised myself. It was like a statement of purpose, a manifesto, a big chunk of things that I believe, that I act on in my best moments, that battle with the doubt in my worst moments, and that mostly allow me to hang on. So I thought, in the interest of all of you getting to know me better, that I would re-post it here. So:
I've been thinking a lot about this sort of thing lately (for reasons too terrifically t00by to go into) and while I understand all the reasons for not jumping, and all the reasons for being afraid, the best thing really is to just go for it and see what happens.
Looking back at the people in my life, I have the most bitterness and/or unresolved anger, and the least respect, for the ones who wouldn't/couldn't move forward not because of circumstances, or their own lack of interest or what have you, but because they were afraid. It's the worst thing to come up against, and the most frustrating.
I can say that for the most part in my life, I regret the things I didn't do rather than the things I did that didn't work out. You make the best decision you can with the information at hand. Second guessing after the fact is just self-punishment. But if you don't try, you will never know what might have been.
Only you know your capabilities and limitations. But one of the reasons we have other people in our lives is to expand those capabilities, to get us to rethink our limitations. The fear, really, is healthy and good and probably what you should be seeking. Someone who is good for you, who can help you grow as a person, is bound to be scary. The goal--really, the thing you do your entire life--is to push through the fear, to do something not just even though you are scared, but because you are scared.
If it ends up being a horrible disaster, then hey, you tried. You can walk away from it knowing that you went in with the best intentions, you gained valuable knowledge about yourself, and you'll be better equipped when the next thing comes along.
Also, many thanks to everyone who replied to that nutty post of yesterday. I will attempt to think of myself as a little cooler than I might have. Thanks.
