. . . because it's hot, and it's for ME.
Aug. 7th, 2006 07:47 amI read two newspaper articles this weekend that fit together in my head, perhaps because I read them somewhat back to back. Both are features, both written by women who felt a level of discomfort about their subject, both about very specific ways in which women can express their own sexuality.
One was in the Guardian, and was about HP Slashers at Lumos.
One was in the LA Times, and was about the "Girls Gone Wild" videos.
I was talking to
slytherincess the other day about the Guardian article and one of the things I said was that the active expression of sexuality by women that is not for the ultimate pleasure of men (like the videos are) or even in that context is incredibly frightening for—well, for lack of a better word, the patriarchy, because I don't mean just men, since there are plenty of men not threatened and plenty of women who are threatened. And it isn't just about slash; it's that entire stereotype of the middle-aged woman, either in a traditional marriage or single and living alone with a cat, who wants to escape through reading romance or erotica. Middle-aged, I think, because she would clearly be past the age of being attractive to men, and therefore has to find another channel for her sexuality—if single, she's doomed to spinsterhood; if married, she's doomed to her husband losing interest in her as he fantasizes about some 20-year-old actress. So this middle-aged woman reads romance novels (which have always had plenty of fairly explicit sex in them) or the superheated pulp of Jackie Collins et al, and it's this funny thing that your mother does that you don't think about too much.
And that's sort of cute, as long as she doesn't try to talk to her friends about it, or meet friends doing it, or take men and make them into sexual objects that aren't "hunks" easily dismissed by regular men. It's fine, even a bit of a joke, for the ladies to faint over vaguely feminized matinee idols that appeared in "pictures for women", like Rudolph Valentino or Rock Hudson, or to appropriately worship square-jawed heroes like Kirk. But put Kirk with Spock and you tap into an undercurrent of that infamous WriterCon report: "How dare you take my hero and make him into an object of your pleasure!" scream the old-line fanboys, which is just another way of saying, "You took my toy and got girl cooties all over it!" How dare we want boys to kiss other boys for our pleasure—never mind that the lesbian scene has been a standard of straight porn for aeons. How dare we, indeed, we middle aged women, openly proclaim that our sexuality is anything but adorable, and in the face of a culture that isn't giving us what we want, make it ourselves, with no apologies.
(I'm leaving the lesbians out, I know. So do they. Women having sex with other women who aren't hot girls playing with a dildo until the man comes along are so frightening as to have been kicked off the reservation entirely. Gay men are okay so long as they know their place (sort of); but they'd rather pretend that lesbians simply don't exist. I'm also leaving out the other insulting undercurrent in the Guardian article, which is that it doesn't "do" to think about things too much, which is another rant for another day.)
But women in their "sexual prime"? (And by that I mean, of course, their prime in terms of being conventionally attractive, because the irony is that it's the middle aged women who have the higher sex drive.) They express their sexuality by taking their clothes off or wearing little clothing to begin with. They are liberated because they can get drunk and fuck some guy they've never met over spring break and no one will call them a slut. Well, not as an insult, anyway. Go to the right party, flirt with the adorable cameraman, flash a nation of late-night television viewers. I mean, at least strippers get paid, and paid well, rather than having to beg for three pairs of low-quality cotton boyshorts after they've been date-raped out of their virginity by the king of soft core voyeur porn.
It's easy, and tempting, to dismiss these girls, and the wonder of the LA Times writer is that she doesn't. She doesn't say well, these are just loud-mouthed exhibitionists; she doesn't lay all the blame at the feet of MTV. She talks of Girls Gone Wild as merely exploiting an already-extant spring break culture. She doesn't even bother to make the "gee, maybe getting drunk and going into a van by yourself with men you don't know is a bad idea" argument because she knows we're already making it, as a way to make ourselves feel safe; instead, she brings us back to our essential solidarity with these girls, to our less-confident younger selves who either made ourselves into that girl that the boys liked, or didn't and faced those consequences. When you're nineteen, you're either that girl in "Hey Nineteen" that an older man is wooing with tequila and coke, or you're not, and maybe it isn't so great to be that girl after all.
The Guardian writer is threatened by these middle-aged women and uses the words of some of the Lumos attendees to humiliate them. The LA Times writer doesn't have to humiliate these young women for "expressing their sexuality"; the "Girls Gone Wild" producers have done it already.
One was in the Guardian, and was about HP Slashers at Lumos.
One was in the LA Times, and was about the "Girls Gone Wild" videos.
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And that's sort of cute, as long as she doesn't try to talk to her friends about it, or meet friends doing it, or take men and make them into sexual objects that aren't "hunks" easily dismissed by regular men. It's fine, even a bit of a joke, for the ladies to faint over vaguely feminized matinee idols that appeared in "pictures for women", like Rudolph Valentino or Rock Hudson, or to appropriately worship square-jawed heroes like Kirk. But put Kirk with Spock and you tap into an undercurrent of that infamous WriterCon report: "How dare you take my hero and make him into an object of your pleasure!" scream the old-line fanboys, which is just another way of saying, "You took my toy and got girl cooties all over it!" How dare we want boys to kiss other boys for our pleasure—never mind that the lesbian scene has been a standard of straight porn for aeons. How dare we, indeed, we middle aged women, openly proclaim that our sexuality is anything but adorable, and in the face of a culture that isn't giving us what we want, make it ourselves, with no apologies.
(I'm leaving the lesbians out, I know. So do they. Women having sex with other women who aren't hot girls playing with a dildo until the man comes along are so frightening as to have been kicked off the reservation entirely. Gay men are okay so long as they know their place (sort of); but they'd rather pretend that lesbians simply don't exist. I'm also leaving out the other insulting undercurrent in the Guardian article, which is that it doesn't "do" to think about things too much, which is another rant for another day.)
But women in their "sexual prime"? (And by that I mean, of course, their prime in terms of being conventionally attractive, because the irony is that it's the middle aged women who have the higher sex drive.) They express their sexuality by taking their clothes off or wearing little clothing to begin with. They are liberated because they can get drunk and fuck some guy they've never met over spring break and no one will call them a slut. Well, not as an insult, anyway. Go to the right party, flirt with the adorable cameraman, flash a nation of late-night television viewers. I mean, at least strippers get paid, and paid well, rather than having to beg for three pairs of low-quality cotton boyshorts after they've been date-raped out of their virginity by the king of soft core voyeur porn.
It's easy, and tempting, to dismiss these girls, and the wonder of the LA Times writer is that she doesn't. She doesn't say well, these are just loud-mouthed exhibitionists; she doesn't lay all the blame at the feet of MTV. She talks of Girls Gone Wild as merely exploiting an already-extant spring break culture. She doesn't even bother to make the "gee, maybe getting drunk and going into a van by yourself with men you don't know is a bad idea" argument because she knows we're already making it, as a way to make ourselves feel safe; instead, she brings us back to our essential solidarity with these girls, to our less-confident younger selves who either made ourselves into that girl that the boys liked, or didn't and faced those consequences. When you're nineteen, you're either that girl in "Hey Nineteen" that an older man is wooing with tequila and coke, or you're not, and maybe it isn't so great to be that girl after all.
The Guardian writer is threatened by these middle-aged women and uses the words of some of the Lumos attendees to humiliate them. The LA Times writer doesn't have to humiliate these young women for "expressing their sexuality"; the "Girls Gone Wild" producers have done it already.
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Date: 2006-08-07 12:34 pm (UTC)As for the Girls Gone Wild stuff, well, IMO Joe Francis is pretty full of himself (that's putting it nicely). Our culture is currently so steeped in a "watch me" mentality that nothing really surprises me anymore.
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Date: 2006-08-08 03:11 am (UTC)I thought the article was incredibly anti-female, really. It was ucky.
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Date: 2006-08-07 01:00 pm (UTC)I can't put it into words any better. It was so much more worthwhile reading the second article as opposed to the first; the LA times writer took time to empathize with the girls in her subject matter and the writer from Guardian seemed ready to dismiss anyone who didn't quite measure up to her level of "normal" And as Anne already said, why send someone who knows nothing about the books and doesn't seem interested to learn about it all and is too lazy to effing research about her piece beforehand?
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Date: 2006-08-08 03:36 am (UTC)Thanks so much Mia! It's nice to see you around tons.
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Date: 2006-08-07 01:16 pm (UTC)But I think you're completely right about the majority of people deciding not to think of female sexuality outside of a specific context. It's sad that they - the huge majority - are unable to jump over their own shadow in the 21st century, and instead feel so very threatened. In addition, I hadn't thought of the threat of the Lesbians in this context before, but now I suddenly get it - because if they can't fuck us in exchange for protecting us and dragging the food into the cave, because we're busy having fun with each other, what is there left for them? Poor guys.
I keep fearing that somehow, they might find a way to stop the slashers, be it using copyright laws or moral laws. But as I guess as long as they want their own porn, and gender equality stays a constitutional right, we are allowed to go on, too.
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Date: 2006-08-08 03:42 am (UTC)Yeah, I mean, I'd be really surprised if they found a way to do it that didn't also fuck them in the ass, so to speak.
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Date: 2006-08-07 01:16 pm (UTC)It was interesting that you linked both of these articles together, because honestly, I was wondering what connection you saw, and what might strike me as I read.
What stayed with me through all of this, was that they both had the overall tone of sexuality, a bit more blatant in the GGW article than the Lumos one. In the Lumos, there was definite judgment going on. In the GGW there was, from the journalist's perspective, more trying to understand, rather than judge, but I know that she's aware that her readers are going to be passing judgment as they read.
I think that anything related to sexuality has always and will always be something very loaded. Everyone has an opinion and everyone their own sexuality, but there are varying degrees of what one is allowed to like, share, or discuss. In someone's opinion, someone will always be crossing the line and someone will always be exploited. I don't think any of these are necessarily right, nor do I believe that there is an easy answer.
I guess what struck me between the two articles is that the GGW journalist was trying to understand, rather than dismiss, and the Guardian journalist was looking to dismiss, rather than try to understand.
I was also quite interested in the GGW article, including the study and examination that has been done from an academic/sociological perspective. It makes me curious to read such things... and to a strange extent, examine how it might impact me, if I was to be 14 or 16 or 18 now, rather than quite a bit older than that.
And, boo on women in their 20's no longer being sexy/desirable to their partners.
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Date: 2006-08-08 03:57 am (UTC)The Guardian piece, I have to admit, I was surprised to see it was written by a woman. She certainly isn't a very sensitive one. That LA Times piece, though, was superb, and I feel it should win awards, and I'm glad it's being linked all over the place. As you mention, I really loved that she was trying to understand these girls, because that helped me to understand them, and I don't think they deserve to be dismissed.
The link came by accident—I think I got the LA Times link off Defamer, which I have as a feed here on LJ, and the Guardian was all over the place of course. I just happened to read them one after the other.
Thanks so much for your thoughtful comments!
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Date: 2006-08-07 03:35 pm (UTC)It's interesting to me that The Guardian sent someone like her to the conference, when she obviously has such disdain for the material the conference is based on. She made so many of her decisions and opinions before she even arrived - Harry Potter is children's fiction and should be treated as such; women who like Harry Potter, write porn about it and go to conferences are unfulfilled in their lives and do this in a form of desperation.
This could have been a very interesting article - an outsider to fandom observing and reacting. Instead, disdain drips from every sentence of her article. If she had even a bit of an open mind, this article would be very different.
I'm so disgusted with this woman, it's hard for me to react to this article well. Good grief, what does she think romance novels are? I'd hate to see her opinions on those.
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Date: 2006-08-07 03:45 pm (UTC)All of that makes me wonder whether it's the slash that bothers people or the fact that it's slash about underage boys? Or turning Snape/Lupin/Sirius/etc. into card carrying members of NAMBLA? The Guardian article mentioned bestiality and rape as well, something that most fans don't get off on - but there are all corners of fandom. The cos play is strange to some too, especially when it's taken too far (the Malfoycest guys *ahem*). But generally costumes are a great way to express fandom interest, and it's mostly fun and entertaining, especially at these huge cons. Hell, every scifi/fantasy fandom engages in cos play, and to a much greater extent than HP fandom.
I was bothered by the tone of the article in regard to the middle-aged women thing. What's the big deal, you know? Is it less worthy because it's dominated by women? Is the scholarship not legit? That pissed me off greatly. I also agree with your take on the sexuality issue. It makes both men and women uncomfortable to see non-teeny boppers expressing sexuality or creating sexual situations, especially when they are non-conventional sexual situations. Brokeback Mountain, I believe, did a lot to break down some barriers, but it also brought the resisters out of the woodwork.
The LA Times article was very disturbing. I'm not that old, but you know, when I was an undergrad, this type of behavior was unacceptable. Any of my friends would have kicked my ass if I flashed a bunch of cameras, and I would have done the same. Guys were more respectful and girls were more innocent. I didn't have any girlfriends who kissed for the pleasure of boys. Maybe I hung around a conservative crowd, I don't know. But we partied a lot and messed around boys - we weren't virginal prudes. But there was always a time and place, and clear limits. Girls Gone Wild is seriously a disgrace and I hope that young girls go to Spring Break knowing NOT to get into the trailer of doom.
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Date: 2006-08-08 04:15 am (UTC)I think there's a generally higher level of performative EVERYTHING these days, and also a willingness to be voyeurs. When I see one of those "My Super Sweet Sixteen" shows I always wonder at the hoardes of schoolmates who are willing to idolize these girls. I don't know, maybe it was because I went to a small school, but while there were definitely girls who were cooler than others, or more popular, they weren't idolized, just very well liked by pretty much everyone, and envied by some.
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Date: 2006-08-07 04:55 pm (UTC)It's funny because I came away with the impression that the LATimes writers was easily the stronger of the two women, and that her refusal to dismiss the girls in the videos was linked to her ability to stand up to a porn king and not let her own impressions be intimidated out of her. Despite how badly the women in the Lumos article come across, I know very well who they really were and that the reporter's words didn't change that. It's doubly strange that lesbians have been so left out since if there's one thing fandom shows it's that of the two, young girls are far better off getting their sexual education in fandom (even if it's primarily through talking) than in a Girls Gone Wild Van.
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Date: 2006-08-08 04:28 am (UTC)Oh my god yes.
I loved how the LA TImes writer started with the altercation and then worked backwards to get us there. I also loved that she punched him. But yeah, she showed us that she really had to work to come to an understanding of these girls, and I'm so very glad she did.
Thank you so much!
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Date: 2006-08-08 02:06 am (UTC)The Guardian writer is threatened by these middle-aged women and uses the words of some of the Lumos attendees to humiliate them.
Absolutely. She only has to take their words out of context, and women saying, "We're empowering ourselves by reclaiming porn and making it what we want it to be" becomes a parody of women's sexual empowerment. That is exactly what pissed me off about that article. It wasn't that she slammed fandom; it was that it was so inherently misogynistic.
This is probably the most interesting and intelligent post I've seen on the subject. Thank you!
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Date: 2006-08-08 04:33 am (UTC)As for GGW, ugh, so right that you call them predators. That whole, wanting to be a "game gal" gets so many into so much trouble.
Thank you, and how sweet of you to link!
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Date: 2006-08-08 03:23 am (UTC)I have a quibble, though, with middle-aged women being no longer attractive. I think today, more than every before, women have so many different stages of sexiness and beauty.
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Date: 2006-08-08 04:37 am (UTC)We always have such interesting conversations! Thank you for that!
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Date: 2006-08-08 03:51 am (UTC)Overall, excellent thoughts - certainly one of the better-written meta-ish things on the subject of the Guardian article.
However, I feel the need to point out that the women in their sexual prime you refer to (I happen to be one of them) being represented by GGW is about as accurate a comparison as middle-aged women being represented by the Lumos contingent. Actually, most females, regardless of age, look down on that behavior (and we do, very often, use 'slut' as a negative term for easy girls like that). Even though they're the same age as me, I feel no solidarity whatsoever with these girls, and I don't think anyone should pity them - their behavior is genuinely disgraceful, to both their gender and their age group. That said, though, showing some skin is fine: if you got it, flaunt it...just don't sleep around.
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Date: 2006-08-08 08:31 am (UTC)thanks for the link to the other article. it was v. v. interesting and i have a heap of respect for that reporter who took time to look at the company, joe, and the women from manhy different angles. she presented all sides to the reader, even showing us joe's confused actions as he goes through his days. superbly done.
what the reporter to lumos could learn from her. i have been greatly saddened by her article, because i find it appalling that someone could be treated to such kindness and sharing and then turn around and show such public disregard for the v. people she happily chatted with. i don't expect non-fandom folk to get fandom, and certainly not slash, but to show such disrespect for people, and women in general as well as her claim that there can't be any worthwhile academic value to the topic was just beyond the pale for me.
thanks for a nice quiet analysis.
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Date: 2006-08-09 10:18 am (UTC)Respect really is the watchword here. You can point out the weird and still be respectful. And the anti-academic thread was just bizarre.
Yeah, I'm not one for shrieking—when I do, I usually put a foot wrong. So, thanks!
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Date: 2006-08-08 09:55 am (UTC)I think you just put a lot of people's thoughts into words.
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Date: 2006-08-08 10:22 am (UTC)I'm in my mid-20s, and closer to the age of the women in Girls Gone Wild than to middle-age, but I'm just as frustrated with the way American culture discredits and ignores the sexuality of older women, straight, bi and lesbian (you're right, quite curious she didn't bring up femmeslash, especially given a panel was held about this). I've always hated that romance reader cliche, too.
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Date: 2006-08-09 04:04 pm (UTC)It's a metaphor!
Date: 2006-08-08 02:08 pm (UTC)And I'm thinking about, but not expressing very well, how Joe Francis's strong-arming of the female reporter perfectly illustrates what you're saying about the patriarchy's fear of women as subject vs. women as object. Hmm, yes. *strokes chin*
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Date: 2006-08-09 03:59 pm (UTC)That LA Times piece is getting widely circulated, which is fantastic, and I really hope that it wins some kind of additional notice, like an award of some kind.
Thanks!
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Date: 2006-08-08 03:37 pm (UTC)Well, that was infuriating, and that's only the third paragraph. Way to dismiss behavior you don't understand.
I enjoyed the academic programming at Lumos, but repeatedly I found myself feeling very under-educated. In the taxi from the airport, the main topic of conversation was our schools and degrees. My three roommates consisted of two PhD candidates and a woman in her third year of medical school. Most of the presenters that I caught were academics by profession. I, on the other hand, have not yet finished my BA. :-( And I'm one of those middle-aged women.
All that aside, you've got some great points here, and thanks for making them. The two articles make an interesting contrast on how women's behavior is perceived and either approved or disapproved of. Infuriating, isn't it?
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Date: 2006-08-08 06:10 pm (UTC)Well said. Although I am a bit of a spring chicken, I agree with what you wrote whole-heartedly.
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Date: 2006-08-09 04:15 pm (UTC)Thank you for your thoughts!
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Date: 2006-08-08 11:25 pm (UTC)WORD.
That's the heart of your argument, and I feel you.
I agree with everything here except for your proposition that the author of the article in The Guardian feels threatened. (Coincidentally, you use the verb "is" as opposed to "feels" in your meta.) She, like the LA Times journalist, makes her living working for a publication whose sole basis of existence is to make money (for companies run by men, nonetheless).
Shall we, then, discuss the differences between British and American media, both of which claim to be "left-wing"? Shall we examine the location of each article: page A8 or page E2? (I have no knowledge of page numbers in either case, by the way.)
I find it amazing that so many are willing to attack the Guardian journalist without examining the publication that puts bread on her table. There are too many factors at work here to say that the Guardian journalist "is threatened." I'm sure she is threatened, and I'm sure that slashers, middle-aged women, and escapists pose the smallest threat of all. After all, we're not making money. And I'd be willing to bet she's not making much more than us.
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Date: 2006-08-09 04:35 pm (UTC)Shall we, then, discuss the differences between British and American media, both of which claim to be "left-wing"?
I admittedly don't know a ton about British media, though I gather than some of the papers are open in their political leanings. While some American mainstream media has been successfully labelled "left-wing" by the right-wing, none of them would claim to be such, and certainly not a paper such as the LA Times.
I find it amazing that so many are willing to attack the Guardian journalist without examining the publication that puts bread on her table.
Is there something that you'd want to tell us about that? I keep coming back to the thought that there were plenty of ways to play "look at the freaks" within that article without taking the what I saw as a particularly anti-academic and anti-female stance. Even the anti-academic I could have understood, even if it pissed me off and even if I feel that the book she was citing was so biased as to be ridiculous.
Thank you so much for your comments! I do think, again, that economics are important, but in comparing these articles to each other, I didn't see it as a deciding factor between the two.
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Date: 2006-08-09 04:26 pm (UTC)Thank you!
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