( details on many ships, plus one picture )
tl;dr: I've realized that I'm drawn to hyper verbal emotionally volitile characters, over and over again, and it doesn't matter all that much what they look like or what gender they are. It's much more about how they are able to put words together to describe exactly how they are feeling at that moment, because they have MANY FEELINGS, and how the people around them react either by talking right back to them, or by letting their words flow over them like a comforting rain. Give me that, and you'll get a shipper.
(I've attempted to talk about my personal tastes and preferences without apologizing for them or defending them against disparaging remarks that are often made, and instead presented them as something that is actually awesome because you know? They totally are! But that doesn't mean that other tastes aren't actually awesome, too.)