So, weddings.

[jlh]

So the reason I was at the Huntington yesterday is my college friend J, who lives in Pasadena. We met for lunch and she mentioned that she had just been at a family wedding this past weekend and said she was "not a wedding person." C asked why, and J explained that weddings are a celebration of young love and romance in a very culturally sanctioned formulaic way that obliterates the very necessary idiosyncrasy of any relationship, turning men and women into brides and grooms and making even the most intelligent of ladies into a doe eyed idiot in a backbreaking white gown, and this is no way to begin a life-long relationship with anyone.

So we changed the subject.

Now, full disclosure: J is an heiress who had a very large society wedding to her college boyfriend and then realized not bisexual, sire, but gay, and left him. She now has a very nice girlfriend, actually. And she made it clear that she may be anti-wedding, but she is definitely pro-marriage. So C and I are wondering:

[Poll #340838]

Comments

[ladylisse.livejournal.com]

I almost went with the majority and picked Option Two, but then I realized that a) I have no idea what the fuck La Perla is, and b) oooo cake.

[adjudicated.livejournal.com]

*uses boobie icon to discuss La Perla*

Oooo, La Perla = tres expensive lingerie. As in like $400 knickers and whatnot.

I hate weddings. My own wedding was really low key. My cousin had a $100,000 wedding with over 1000 guests (I didn't go). That's just insane. INSANE. No excuse -- pretentious and insane.

[ladylisse.livejournal.com]

Have gone and googled it. Very very pretty, but way outside my budget. o_O

I've always liked one particular wedding I went to -- my mom's cousin's, I think. It got held in this tiny hall with Polish food, and there were these giant dancing puppets and at one point all the little kids entertained everybody with the macarena. It was inexpensive and just fun. If I get married, there's so gonna be giant puppets.

[mahoni.livejournal.com]

I can see where she gets the 'culturally sanctioned and formulaic,' but on one hand, how the participants play against the cultural aspects and the formula depends on who they are, not on some kind of one-day-only brainwashing that takes them over until they escape from the reception. That doesn't mean they won't play the part of a brainwashed Stepford bride/groom, but that's not the fault of the wedding. It seems to me it's more the fault of the person who bought into cultural/formula elements that didn't fit them. And on the other hand, my wedding dress was far from back-breaking because I was not a doe-eyed idiot during or after the purchase of it. :P

Also, choice number two, besides being so true, also cracked me up. LOL.

[sisterpandora.livejournal.com]

My selction stands until I have recovered from this past July. That will probably be sometime around next July when I'm gearing up for M.'s wedding.

[evil-erato.livejournal.com]

I went with option 1, but then I am unnaturally biased against weddings right now. It all seems so much work and trauma of dealing with overbearing family members for a short ceremony and overly expensive party. Also, being a private person by nature, I cannot concieve of wanting to have 5574895793 people hanging about while I say my vows to my intended.

Yes, I know I'm the odd woman out here. ;)

[enkeli.livejournal.com]

wow! you were right around the corner from my apartment.

hope you enjoyed the huntington! i always love it there, any time of year...