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[jlh]

I simply cannot focus. I'm not bored, exactly, as there are things I could be doing. But, there haven't been a lot of people on YM lately, and I didn't realize how much vaguely chatting with everyone gets me through the workday. So instead, I've been perusing friendsfriends. What I love about that is seeing some totally crazy community or person ranting and you can click through to their info to see who the bloody hell on your flist has them friended. My results so far are:

• People who don't want kids enough to be in a community about it seem really angry. Dude, you have my total support. There is nothing worse on this earth that people who don't want kids, having kids. But seriously, is the hostility necessary?


• There are a lot of Alton Brown fans out there and thank god for that. I love that on his blog he said "The fact that "Dr." Phil has the number 1 cookbook on Amazon.com makes me want to end it all."


• I need Photoshop now now now now now because I am suffering from severe icon envy and now I want to sit around making icons of everything I think is cool. Which is a lot of stuff, let me tell you. Luckily I have connections.


• Silly entries are fun from friends and entirely uninteresting from strangers.

I am going to put friendsfriends on my link list for ease of use. Further proof of my lack of focus:

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I am hugely loving the "indie rock" channel on YM radio. Also, thanks to the_snoo my new catchphrase is "gay gay gay." As in, "I watched a documentary on Peter Allen last night and wow, was he gay. Gay gay gay."

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[wordplay.livejournal.com]

Following your suggestions (Thanks so much! That was exactly the kind of feedback I was looking for!) I ordered Emma from Amazon last night, and PSP 8 was also in my shopping cart when I made it to checkout. My, my, how did that get in there? *tries desperately to look innocent* It should be here in a couple of weeks, and then the world needs to watch out, as I will be an icon-making fiend. I so cannot wait.

I also get that childfree community on friendsfriends a lot, and it just makes me feel, well, like shit. *shrug* Nothing like reading a lot of random and unfocused hatred being turned toward one of your most important and personal life choices to brighten your day. :)

[jlh.livejournal.com]

YAY, I'm so glad, you're more than welcome. I was thinking of you tonight as I was watching I Love the 90s and they were talking about Clueless and I was like, oh yeah!

Also, whee, we can be icon-making fiends together! And battle all random and unfocused hatred!

[skg.livejournal.com]

I have seen the CF communities out there. There is a lot of anger.

Of that anger, I am totally with them on the (aka I am sick of) "you'll change your mind" or "you're unnatural" and especially "that is so selfish" responses when you tell people you aren't having children (after being prodded into discussing it).

*sigh*

[jlh.livejournal.com]

I hate it when people do that! It is far, FAR more selfish to have a kid that you are entirely unwilling or unprepared to take care of, or take responsibility for, than to decide not to have them! Horrid for people to give you or anyone a hard time about it.

I had expected to see that sort of thing on this community, or maybe the whole, "we have to make up for the parents who are never at work" stuff, but instead it was a lot of general carping about children, and someone crowing over how that woman in Paris was lying, which I didn't think actually had anything to do with not wanting children. It was just sort of odd.

[kay-taylor.livejournal.com]

People who don't want kids enough to be in a community about it seem really angry.

Personally, just need somewhere to rant when people who claim to KNOW me spend ten minutes going all "awww, you'll change your mind when you get older!". The constant patronising "all women want kids, honey" thing drives me around the bend, and I like to know that there are people I can whinge to when it happens. I'm not angry about kids or the lack of them per se, just the assumption that I don't know my own mind simply because I have a uterus.

< /end petite rant >

[skg.livejournal.com]

The constant patronising "all women want kids, honey" thing drives me around the bend

Oh so true. I am so so so tired of this. I enjoy being around certain children for discrete periods of time, but I need a lot of alone time and a lot of quiet time. These things are in opposition to being a parent--particularly since my spouse is the same way.

My uterus has not taken over my brain. The older I get, the fainter the ticking of my (mythical? non-existent) biological clock gets. I don't see a metanoia occurring here...

[jlh.livejournal.com]

Well, as I said to Sarah, I think it's not only beyond patronizing for someone to say you don't know your own mind, but it also is much more selfish to have kids you don't want than to not have kids. There are plenty of other people willing to populate the planet. We don't all have to be one of them.

So when I saw that on my friendsfriends I assumed that it would be full of just the sentiment you expressed, plus that workplace fairness stuff of the benefits that people with kids are seen to get (like not having to work over the holidays, that sort of thing). What I was surprised by was this sort of unfocussed anger, mostly expressed in scorn for parents and disgust with children in general. It was really weird, as though they had decided to just live up to the stereotype of them as child-eating witches or something.