so from a long time lurker on your journal (which I fully enjoy)...
this is a really intersting point. i wonder if it also has to do with some idea that good sex is inherently natural and unlearned--ie, some "magnificence" just waiting to spring forth. when in fact most sex (including things that may be characterize as bdsm, but certainly not limited to) involves a high degree of learning. which nobody wants to admit, as it brings up all kinds of awkward discomforts. so if it is partially about identication with pov, then maybe it's less about being inherently uninteresting or envy, but also about getting to fulfill a fantasy of being sexually unawkward (except in charming ways that make everyone else hot)?
interesting point
this is a really intersting point. i wonder if it also has to do with some idea that good sex is inherently natural and unlearned--ie, some "magnificence" just waiting to spring forth. when in fact most sex (including things that may be characterize as bdsm, but certainly not limited to) involves a high degree of learning. which nobody wants to admit, as it brings up all kinds of awkward discomforts. so if it is partially about identication with pov, then maybe it's less about being inherently uninteresting or envy, but also about getting to fulfill a fantasy of being sexually unawkward (except in charming ways that make everyone else hot)?
--m.